Many couples find it helpful to grieve together and to remember their baby as a shared experience. However, if you have separated from your partner during the pregnancy or after your baby died, you may not have the option of sharing your grief with each other.
If you feel able, you could make joint decisions and arrangements, and if you have other children together, working together to support them may also be helpful so they receive consistent care and information about the baby and what has happened. More in the Related Articles below.
Grieving on your own can be especially difficult and you may need additional support from family and friends, or to seek professional support. You may find that crying and talking about your baby are good ways of releasing feelings, and you may want to tell your story over and over again or find it helpful to write down what happened and how you feel day by day.
Not being able to share your experience with the other parent of the baby can feel isolating, even if there are other people to support you. Think about how you need to express your grief and what support you might need. Sands can provide you with your own memory box if this is what you would like.