For most parents, planning a nursery and choosing clothes for a baby they are expecting is an exciting experience. When your previous baby has died, it can be difficult to feel confident enough to make preparations for the arrival of your baby. Again, you can speak to someone about your anxieties and maybe ask a family member or friend for practical help in putting together a hospital bag or going shopping for baby clothes and equipment with you. You may feel more comfortable to wait until after your baby is born before you make any extra preparations.
You might also feel afraid of loving the new baby or forming strong attachments until you are confident that they baby is alive and well. It is totally natural to have these fears. You might also find that you are extremely protective of the new baby when they are born. Think about what you would like from your birth plan and what those caring for you need to know.