We are so sorry that your baby died
This may be the first time you have felt able to talk about your baby and to express your grief. You may want to discuss ways in which you could commemorate your baby, or to find out what happened to your baby’s body. You may want to know that you are not alone and that others share your feelings.
Losing a baby around the time of birth is a major bereavement which can have a life-long impact on parents and their families. We are often contacted by parents whose baby died many years ago, and who now want to talk about what happened and how they feel. We are also contacted by surviving brothers and sisters and other family members who would like to find out more about the baby and about what happened at the time. This may be because the parents have asked them to find out, or because the parents have never felt able to talk about what happened and close family members now want to know.
It’s normal for sadness and grief to re-emerge many years later. You may not have felt able to acknowledge what happened before now. Sometimes a TV or radio programme or an article can prompt a call. Sometimes it’s a family event, such as the youngest child leaving home, the arrival of a grandchild, a serious illness, or another death. And sometimes parents feel a need to call us out of the blue and for no obvious reason.
We welcome all calls and emails from anyone who is affected by a baby’s death, however long ago it happened, and we hope that you will find this information helpful.